As long as you derive inner help and comfort from anything, keep it. Mahatma Gandhi
How do you know you are receiving a sign or message from
your deceased loved one? Do you doubt what you interpret as signs from your
loved ones? Do you want a sign so badly that you are making the lack of receiving signs a
part of your grief? Do you have anxiety because you believe your child or loved
one is angry resentful, guilty, remorseful or any other human feeling you may worry about? Do you want the same sign other
bereaved parents receive?
Receiving after death communications (signs and messages from our deceased loved ones) is not just a desire of the bereaved. It is not
wishful thinking. It is a part of learning to live your life differently after the death of a loved one. And
it too, like grief, is a process and it will take time to develop your new
relationship. It takes three simple (but
not easy) steps to learn how to develop and maintain a relationship with your
deceased loved one. Those steps are:
1. (Be) Aware
2. Notice
3. Trust
Establishing a continuing relationship with your loved one
follows those three steps. Zac was making sure that I “got it” yesterday. I
understood the message of important songs to our history, in three different
situations and he obviously had an ulterior motive for the contact. (Possibly
assisting with this post!)
Anyone and everyone can communicate with their loved ones. They have to
open themselves up to communicate and to listen. (Zac 7-31-01)
Receiving signs and messages:
· is not dependent upon “practice,”
· it is not
dependent upon your desire or lack thereof
· it is not
that your loved one is angry, resentful nor has any residual feeling from their
physical life.
#1. To be able to receive signs and messages it is dependent
upon clearing your mind enough to be able to be Aware. This is a subject for another post but focusing your mind is
necessary to be able to receive your loved one’s messages
and signs. This communication is a two-way process and from each direction,
messages need to be sent and received by each spirit. (You are now speaking a
different language too) In
our grief we tend to forget our responsibility in the communication.
#2. This is
where the noticing enters. The
receiver (you) needs to recognize the personal messages being sent.
#3 Trust is developed when you come to know that what you experience is not
coincidence and moves beyond your belief.
Yes, people may “see signs” when there are none because they want (and hope) to
establish some contact with their loved one. However, it is through a personal process
of learning awareness, noticing and trusting that you will come to have a
continuing relationship with your child or loved one.
People may ridicule you and say you are seeing things.
Others may label your experiences as coincidence. You may doubt yourself and
what you experienced, what you feel or you may question whether you are making “something
out of nothing.” Here is where the step of trust is crucial to the process.
When I first established my new relationship with my son, Zac after his death he used a helpful metaphor to explain the process. He said that
when he first attempted to “reach” me while I was in the midst of my early,
deep grief, it was like he was inside the television, knocking on the screen,
trying to get my attention with the sound turned off. I was unreachable.
P.S. If you have
questions about this process, please feel free to comment or ask!
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